Now I am aware that A) I don't need sis's respect. B) My focus when with family should be on less personal matters. Keep the money discussions between husband & I. Thankfully, he & I are very much on the same page, & share many core values! C) Taking in these realizations will lessen my fear & make me less needy. I will then be less defensive & uptight.
I will try to become more aware of game playing. I can be so naive. My husband says sister #2 is very street smart, & he says I am not at all. Anyway, If I see a "game" starting, I will remember, "play it to lose."
Thanks again for all the wonderful feedback & suggestions. G
I was touched by your experience & by your ultimate conclusion. You obviously learned to handle the challenges gracefully.
"Why not love each other all along, nasty or demented?" But that isn't the way it goes much of the time, is it? Guess its ego. You let go of your ego & found love. Earlier you remarked that family is a "sacred bond." That's different from the popular notion that family is basically an accident that occurs!
If we don't like what we got, we needn't worry; we choose our friends! Then, we just create a new family!