Spent all day with my sister & her hubby yesterday. We had a nice day. Today she called with shocking news. Her brother in law shot & killed himself in the backyard of their home.
Anyway, I know you have spoken/written about suicide. What do you think about suicide? What can I say to the 40 year old daughter when she visits this summer with her husband & children? What do I say in May when the wife of the man who killed himself will be here for a visit?
I am in shock. I can't imagine how & her two grown children (& three grandchildren) must feel. These are the last people I'd ever suspect this could happen to. I thought they were all very happy!
She told my sis that the day before her husband shot himself he asked her to go out for lunch with him & she declined. She told him she was too busy. Later that day, she changed her mind & told him she could go with him for lunch. He said, "Never mind, I know you don't really want to go."
He left no note.
Thanks for any feedback you can offer.
It makes sense that we need also to understand that if suicide is part of someone's journey, we must accept that, even though it is incredibly sad, & very difficult to accept. We can redeem the tragedy of the event, as you suggest, by loving more deeply.
Thank you very much.
For all of them who are suffering I will "...conjure up a magical circle around them to keep them safe..." I like that idea very much. I will also "...ask for grace to be more loving myself, and less fearful." I love the idea of trying to use the energy created by sadness toward becoming more loving & for creating good around me.
I will keep in my prayers AB, that you always have the strength you need for bearing whatever pains you must bear.
You have offered so much love to others. I hope that you always feel
surrounded by a circle of love and support.