That is really interesting, A.B.! Wow, so you have actually done this sort of thing all your life! Your stories are amazing.
I just learned a few days ago that my husband has started to look for another job. I thought we were going to be in this house forever, and had started to plan some upgrades to the house. This changes everything of course. I don't think we'd try selling the house for at least of couple of years, but still, I need to "design to sell" now rather than re-do for the long term.
At first I felt scared when he shared the news. After all, the housing market is abysmal. Our value has plummeted. I know we will lose money at the time of sale...IF we can sell. Houses sit unsold forever anymore.
After about 48 fear-filled hours I started to actually allow myself to think about the positives that could exist with this scenario. By brain wanted to say "What positives?" but I persisted. This move hasn't been the greatest for either myself or my husband. While I've accepted living in a city I don't really like, maybe is it possible that this change could allow me to move to a place that I actually do like...that I even love? Should I allow myself to dream big like that?
If my husband could get a job about 45 miles north of where we currently live, I'd be in seventh heaven. I love everything about the place. The houses, the environment, the culture, the opportunites and activities there are all "up my alley!" The icing on the cake is...my sister whom I love dearly, lives there.
Should I focus my energy toward this possibility? I guess I'm so afraid of being disappointed again & feeling that broken-hearted pain.
Still, a part of me has been pushing toward the positive...what if? What if I could live there? (Good things like that don't happen to me my brain insists.)
This is why I wondered about the image boards, etc. Instead of thinking, "I'll take what I can get & that's surely going to be the pits" why not make an effort to go for what I'd really love & even believe a little bit that it could happen?
It was inspiring to hear how you "imagined" your aspirations into reality.