Don’t wait
around for somebody else to boost your spirits. Be your own best friend and pat
yourself on the back now and then.
I saw the movie “The Help” quite a while ago
and found it fairly forgettable since it was all so stereotypical. However one
small phrase must have impressed me because it came to mind recently. It was
uttered by the nanny who said so lovingly to the baby, “You is beautiful, you
is kind, you is smart.” Imagine having someone say that to you every day since
you were a baby. Probably would have made a big difference in your life, wouldn’t
it?
Maybe nobody
told us such uplifting things very often when we were young. But so what? We
can always tell it to ourselves. The thinking that we have to love ourselves
first before we can love anybody else has some validity perhaps. But the reverse
is certainly true. If we hate ourselves for any reason, if we are stressed to
the limit, it will surely be difficult to connect with anyone else in a loving
way. And since we are a herd animal, we have a primal need to feel connected.
So we can
use something even as simple as this, with all the incorrect grammar—use it as
a mantra. It probably will do more good than what we may already be using as a
mantra “I’m so discouraged.” “I feel so down on myself.” “I’m such a failure.” “I’m
so damn stressed out.” All these thoughts, remember, since our brain works by
learned association, are instructions to our brain to put us in touch with
everything downer and negative in our memory banks. Yuck.
So I’m going
to tell myself. And you tell yourself. And I’ll tell you as well, “You is beautiful,
you is kind you is smart.” Believe it! A.B.Curtiss
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