QUESTION:
I really
seem to struggle with practicing brainswitching on days when I don't have much
going on. Weekends and evenings are hard for me. Today started to doubt
the process altogether. I think I could use some couching or reassurance. Can you tell that this has worked for people? I could really
use the reassurance.
All I really
have to go on are you and a few Amazon reviews (and any courage I can drum up).
I would love to hear from you that you have seen this work for people. That you
personally have seen more than just your own life changed from this.
Also, to
pull me out of this I mainly use the "green frog" type exercise. Is
that the method you recommend? There are sooo many exercises in the book and I
am a little intimidated by that. I would like it to be as simple as using green
frog. My thinking about everything is so damn negative! I seem to see
everything as a problem or a threat. I am so damn tense. I just want to cry and
scream, why me? And when can I relax? I had a much easier time of it the first
few days after I read the book...I felt inspired. Some part of me really does
suspect that this could be my ticket to freedom, but I don't want it to be too
good to be true. I understand that you have to believe for anything to really
work. I guess I am asking for more to believe in. You really aren't afraid of
it anymore? You know other people that aren't afraid anymore?
I know you
may find yourself busy, so...when you have the time.
ANSWER:
Don’t worry about belief. Just use common sense. If you try something
and you get a good result, use it again. The fear that it won’t “really work,”
is unreasonable fear. You can’t use unreasonable fear for anything worthwhile
so whenever unreasonable fear pops up—turn your thoughts to common sense thoughts
and reach for something that has worked before.
Yes, I know of many people that have used just a simple exercise like
"green frog," or "hippoty hop", or"so what" and
have not sunk back into their habitual depression.
The elaborate exercises are for further work .You can always learn
something from them but they are not necessary to get out of depression. I
still use simple exercises myself whenever I need them.
No, I'm not afraid of my own brain anymore as I am in charge of it. Not because of my belief in any system, but because
I have learned to use a little common sense and that has given me the
confidence over time that I can always use my common sense when fear strikes.
Your thinking does not ever have to be negative. You can always change
it to something non-emotional or more productive. It is common sense. The
opposite is untrue. It is simply untrue that you can't think a positive
thought when you want. It is simply untrue that you are forced to only think
a negative thought when it pops up and have no choice in the matter.
So you are in fear because of something that is untrue. Does that make
common sense? Yes, it takes courage to take charge and take full responsibility
for your own thinking when it is a new idea to you.
Courage comes with the exercise of it. There is an alternative
to thinking a non-emotional thought or a productive thought when fear arises.
The alternative is to think a depressive or negative thought. But a
depressive or negative thought is an unnecessary alternative. You are
terrified of an unnecessary alternative. It is always easy to freak out. But it
is not necessary.
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