Those very institutions of marriage and family that should be our help and support and keep us out of depression and loneliness are not significantly nourishing for us because we have focusing on ourselves instead of investing ourselves. We have been looking at marriage and family to discover what we want to get out of them rather than what we want to put into them.
Today's children are suffering more and more from alienation and loneleness . They need encouragement from the time they are 4 or 5 years old to invest themselves in their own families so that their families exist as more than just another free handout for which they feel they owe no debt or respect and to which they exhibit no gratitude. By the time they are teenagers they should have some sense of family identity and connection and bondedness that they have important "family duties." They should have a good feeling that the family counts on them ,and in putting in some hard work themselves, they will have more of a respect for the hard work their parents do on their behalf. A. B. Curtiss